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Raising A Mixed Race Girl In A White World
By Liz McTan -February 26, 20201
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My husband and I looked at each other shocked. We had just heard our
daughter say something we never thought would be an issue. Our gorgeous
little mixed race girl, only three years old, said she didn’t think she
was beautiful.

Suddenly, I was aware I had a blind spot.
I had assumed – because everyone comments how pretty she is all the
time, and because she is so clearly gorgeous – that us reinforcing her
other qualities would be enough.

I didn’t expect that all the people she herself thought of as
“beautiful” didn’t look like her.
It happened as I was watching my daughter playing with her precious Anna
doll (from FROZEN) with her Dad. They were brushing Anna’s hair. My
husband asked her, “oh look at her long hair. Is Anna beautiful?” “Yes,”
said my daughter quickly.

Then he asked “Is Juni beautiful?” And then, just as quickly, my
gorgeous little three-year-old said, “no.”

Hearing her say she didn’t think she was beautiful was like a punch in
the gut.
I jumped into the conversation:

“OF COURSE JUNI IS BEAUTIFUL! JUNI IS ALSO STRONG AND BRAVE JUST LIKE
ANNA, AND SHE’S KIND AND FUNNY LIKE ANNA! AND BEAUTIFUL! JUNI IS VERY
PRETTY LIKE ANNA! WHY WOULD YOU SAY JUNI’S NOT BEAUTIFUL, BABY?”

She seemed so unbothered. We were definitely the more upset ones in this
situation. But as we talked, she finally said it.

“MAMA RED HAIR. ANNA RED HAIR. JUNI NO RED HAIR.”

It hit me like a ton of bricks. My daughter is a mixed race girl. Her
favorite character is a white girl, with naturally red hair just like
me. She saw those as the things that make you beautiful. Sweet, simple,
and incredibly painful to realize.

The reality is, there are no children’s characters like my mixed race
girl, half asian and half white.
My child is so uniquely beautiful. I had assumed that other people
commenting on it all the time would sink under her skin, and if anything
we would spend her life making sure she didn’t JUST value her beauty.

I knew that over-valuing my looks made some difficulties for me later in
life. However I’d never had a lack of representation.
I grew up seeing myself in THE LITTLE MERMAID. In PIPPI LONGSTOCKING. In
Jessica Rabbit. I knew my red hair made me special.

While we are generally getting more representation for people of color
and ethnic minorities in our media, role models for mixed race girls and
boys are in a whole different ballgame. Representation is a process in
terms of our culture.

How long did it take to get people of color represented beyond the
stereotypical roles at all? The answer is way too long.

When my daughter watches her favorite cartoons, there is no one with her
skin tone, her eye shape, and hair color combo.
She is such a perfect mixture of our features. We get people commenting
all the time:

“WHERE DID SHE GET THOSE EYES!?”

The check out girl at the super market asks, looking at me and her
father with our dark eyes. My daughter’s eyes are a
hazel/grey/blue/green that she inherited from her uncles. Her hair is
just slightly auburn in the light, but mostly a light brown neither of
us have. Her eye shape is a subtle mix of her father’s almond and my own
more round shape. This all makes her totally unique.

It also means no one looks like her and she will deal with the issues
her life long.

Things my white privilege made me incredibly unaware about as the mother
of a mixed race girl.
So what to do? Well, hop on the internet and talk to other mothers of
mixed race children. While it might be that there is a lack of
representation in media, mixed kids are more common than ever before.
Mixed race families are practically the norm here in Southern
California. Juniper certainly isn’t the only one in our friendship
group, school, or anywhere else we go.

My friends suggested things from Barbies that look mixed race to this
great article about how to celebrate diversity with our kids. Books are
on their way to our house as we speak like It’s Okay to Be Different,
and The Colors of Us.

Mostly, I’ve realized that issues of race and white privilege come much
earlier in life than I anticipated.
That’s probably no shock to my friends who aren’t white. However, this
stuff takes time to learn if you haven’t lived it yourself and even the
most “woke” of us have so much room to grow.

I just hope I can do enough to make sure my mixed race girl knows she is
beautiful, and her differences make her even more so.

Quack Andrew B. Chung = SHEIN = Anita = jew paedophile BARRY 'jewface'
SHEIN18 minutes ago
> ReplyPermalinkOn Sun, 5 May 2024 08:00:58 -0700, NOT Michael Ejercito
>> I just hope I can do enough to make sure my mixed race girl knows she is
>> beautiful, and her differences make her even more so.
> LOL! That's the result of your bestiality, schmuck!
Mangina, there was no bestiality.

It is the result of the holy estate of matrimony.

It is the result of the union of husband and wife, penis and vagina,
sperm and egg, the APOGEE of human sexuality!

Michael

HeartDoc Andrew wrote:
> Michael Ejercito wrote:
>
>> https://orangecounty.momcollective.com/parenting-wisdom/educational/raising-a-mixed-race-girl-in-a-white-world/
>>
>>
>> Raising A Mixed Race Girl In A White World
>> By Liz McTan -February 26, 2020
>> FacebookTwitterPinterestReddItEmail
>> mixed race girl
>> My husband and I looked at each other shocked. We had just heard our
>> daughter say something we never thought would be an issue. Our gorgeous
>> little mixed race girl, only three years old, said she didn’t think she
>> was beautiful.
>>
>> Suddenly, I was aware I had a blind spot.
>> I had assumed – because everyone comments how pretty she is all the
>> time, and because she is so clearly gorgeous – that us reinforcing her
>> other qualities would be enough.
>>
>> I didn’t expect that all the people she herself thought of as
>> “beautiful” didn’t look like her.
>> It happened as I was watching my daughter playing with her precious Anna
>> doll (from FROZEN) with her Dad. They were brushing Anna’s hair. My
>> husband asked her, “oh look at her long hair. Is Anna beautiful?” “Yes,”
>> said my daughter quickly.
>>
>> Then he asked “Is Juni beautiful?” And then, just as quickly, my
>> gorgeous little three-year-old said, “no.”
>>
>> Hearing her say she didn’t think she was beautiful was like a punch in
>> the gut.
>> I jumped into the conversation:
>>
>> “OF COURSE JUNI IS BEAUTIFUL! JUNI IS ALSO STRONG AND BRAVE JUST LIKE
>> ANNA, AND SHE’S KIND AND FUNNY LIKE ANNA! AND BEAUTIFUL! JUNI IS VERY
>> PRETTY LIKE ANNA! WHY WOULD YOU SAY JUNI’S NOT BEAUTIFUL, BABY?”
>>
>> She seemed so unbothered. We were definitely the more upset ones in this
>> situation. But as we talked, she finally said it.
>>
>> “MAMA RED HAIR. ANNA RED HAIR. JUNI NO RED HAIR.”
>>
>> It hit me like a ton of bricks. My daughter is a mixed race girl. Her
>> favorite character is a white girl, with naturally red hair just like
>> me. She saw those as the things that make you beautiful. Sweet, simple,
>> and incredibly painful to realize.
>>
>> The reality is, there are no children’s characters like my mixed race
>> girl, half asian and half white.
>> My child is so uniquely beautiful. I had assumed that other people
>> commenting on it all the time would sink under her skin, and if anything
>> we would spend her life making sure she didn’t JUST value her beauty.
>>
>> I knew that over-valuing my looks made some difficulties for me later in
>> life. However I’d never had a lack of representation.
>> I grew up seeing myself in THE LITTLE MERMAID. In PIPPI LONGSTOCKING. In
>> Jessica Rabbit. I knew my red hair made me special.
>>
>> While we are generally getting more representation for people of color
>> and ethnic minorities in our media, role models for mixed race girls and
>> boys are in a whole different ballgame. Representation is a process in
>> terms of our culture.
>>
>> How long did it take to get people of color represented beyond the
>> stereotypical roles at all? The answer is way too long.
>>
>> When my daughter watches her favorite cartoons, there is no one with her
>> skin tone, her eye shape, and hair color combo.
>> She is such a perfect mixture of our features. We get people commenting
>> all the time:
>>
>> “WHERE DID SHE GET THOSE EYES!?”
>>
>> The check out girl at the super market asks, looking at me and her
>> father with our dark eyes. My daughter’s eyes are a
>> hazel/grey/blue/green that she inherited from her uncles. Her hair is
>> just slightly auburn in the light, but mostly a light brown neither of
>> us have. Her eye shape is a subtle mix of her father’s almond and my own
>> more round shape. This all makes her totally unique.
>>
>> It also means no one looks like her and she will deal with the issues
>> her life long.
>>
>> Things my white privilege made me incredibly unaware about as the mother
>> of a mixed race girl.
>> So what to do? Well, hop on the internet and talk to other mothers of
>> mixed race children. While it might be that there is a lack of
>> representation in media, mixed kids are more common than ever before.
>> Mixed race families are practically the norm here in Southern
>> California. Juniper certainly isn’t the only one in our friendship
>> group, school, or anywhere else we go.
>>
>> My friends suggested things from Barbies that look mixed race to this
>> great article about how to celebrate diversity with our kids. Books are
>> on their way to our house as we speak like It’s Okay to Be Different,
>> and The Colors of Us.
>>
>> Mostly, I’ve realized that issues of race and white privilege come much
>> earlier in life than I anticipated.
>> That’s probably no shock to my friends who aren’t white. However, this
>> stuff takes time to learn if you haven’t lived it yourself and even the
>> most “woke” of us have so much room to grow.
>>
>> I just hope I can do enough to make sure my mixed race girl knows she is
>> beautiful, and her differences make her even more so.
>
> I simply wish that all children (and their parents) know Apostle
> Paul's secret ( https://bit.ly/Philippians4_12 ) "rapture riddle"
> (Luke 17:37) answer **now** so that they don't perish with
> https://AntiChrist45.com in the imminent Great Tribulation.
Indeed.

>
> Indeed, I am wonderfully hungry for food right now (Luke 6:21a) and
> hope you, Michael, and others reading this, also have a healthy
> appetite for food right now too.
>
> So how are you ?
>

I am wonderfully hungry!

Michael

HeartDoc Andrew wrote:
> Michael Ejercito wrote
>> HeartDoc Andrew, in the Holy Spirit, boldly wrote:
>>> Michael Ejercito wrote:
>>>
>>>> https://orangecounty.momcollective.com/parenting-wisdom/educational/raising-a-mixed-race-girl-in-a-white-world/
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Raising A Mixed Race Girl In A White World
>>>> By Liz McTan -February 26, 2020
>>>> FacebookTwitterPinterestReddItEmail
>>>> mixed race girl
>>>> My husband and I looked at each other shocked. We had just heard our
>>>> daughter say something we never thought would be an issue. Our gorgeous
>>>> little mixed race girl, only three years old, said she didn’t think she
>>>> was beautiful.
>>>>
>>>> Suddenly, I was aware I had a blind spot.
>>>> I had assumed – because everyone comments how pretty she is all the
>>>> time, and because she is so clearly gorgeous – that us reinforcing her
>>>> other qualities would be enough.
>>>>
>>>> I didn’t expect that all the people she herself thought of as
>>>> “beautiful” didn’t look like her.
>>>> It happened as I was watching my daughter playing with her precious Anna
>>>> doll (from FROZEN) with her Dad. They were brushing Anna’s hair. My
>>>> husband asked her, “oh look at her long hair. Is Anna beautiful?” “Yes,”
>>>> said my daughter quickly.
>>>>
>>>> Then he asked “Is Juni beautiful?” And then, just as quickly, my
>>>> gorgeous little three-year-old said, “no.”
>>>>
>>>> Hearing her say she didn’t think she was beautiful was like a punch in
>>>> the gut.
>>>> I jumped into the conversation:
>>>>
>>>> “OF COURSE JUNI IS BEAUTIFUL! JUNI IS ALSO STRONG AND BRAVE JUST LIKE
>>>> ANNA, AND SHE’S KIND AND FUNNY LIKE ANNA! AND BEAUTIFUL! JUNI IS VERY
>>>> PRETTY LIKE ANNA! WHY WOULD YOU SAY JUNI’S NOT BEAUTIFUL, BABY?”
>>>>
>>>> She seemed so unbothered. We were definitely the more upset ones in this
>>>> situation. But as we talked, she finally said it.
>>>>
>>>> “MAMA RED HAIR. ANNA RED HAIR. JUNI NO RED HAIR.”
>>>>
>>>> It hit me like a ton of bricks. My daughter is a mixed race girl. Her
>>>> favorite character is a white girl, with naturally red hair just like
>>>> me. She saw those as the things that make you beautiful. Sweet, simple,
>>>> and incredibly painful to realize.
>>>>
>>>> The reality is, there are no children’s characters like my mixed race
>>>> girl, half asian and half white.
>>>> My child is so uniquely beautiful. I had assumed that other people
>>>> commenting on it all the time would sink under her skin, and if anything
>>>> we would spend her life making sure she didn’t JUST value her beauty.
>>>>
>>>> I knew that over-valuing my looks made some difficulties for me later in
>>>> life. However I’d never had a lack of representation.
>>>> I grew up seeing myself in THE LITTLE MERMAID. In PIPPI LONGSTOCKING. In
>>>> Jessica Rabbit. I knew my red hair made me special.
>>>>
>>>> While we are generally getting more representation for people of color
>>>> and ethnic minorities in our media, role models for mixed race girls and
>>>> boys are in a whole different ballgame. Representation is a process in
>>>> terms of our culture.
>>>>
>>>> How long did it take to get people of color represented beyond the
>>>> stereotypical roles at all? The answer is way too long.
>>>>
>>>> When my daughter watches her favorite cartoons, there is no one with her
>>>> skin tone, her eye shape, and hair color combo.
>>>> She is such a perfect mixture of our features. We get people commenting
>>>> all the time:
>>>>
>>>> “WHERE DID SHE GET THOSE EYES!?”
>>>>
>>>> The check out girl at the super market asks, looking at me and her
>>>> father with our dark eyes. My daughter’s eyes are a
>>>> hazel/grey/blue/green that she inherited from her uncles. Her hair is
>>>> just slightly auburn in the light, but mostly a light brown neither of
>>>> us have. Her eye shape is a subtle mix of her father’s almond and my own
>>>> more round shape. This all makes her totally unique.
>>>>
>>>> It also means no one looks like her and she will deal with the issues
>>>> her life long.
>>>>
>>>> Things my white privilege made me incredibly unaware about as the mother
>>>> of a mixed race girl.
>>>> So what to do? Well, hop on the internet and talk to other mothers of
>>>> mixed race children. While it might be that there is a lack of
>>>> representation in media, mixed kids are more common than ever before.
>>>> Mixed race families are practically the norm here in Southern
>>>> California. Juniper certainly isn’t the only one in our friendship
>>>> group, school, or anywhere else we go.
>>>>
>>>> My friends suggested things from Barbies that look mixed race to this
>>>> great article about how to celebrate diversity with our kids. Books are
>>>> on their way to our house as we speak like It’s Okay to Be Different,
>>>> and The Colors of Us.
>>>>
>>>> Mostly, I’ve realized that issues of race and white privilege come much
>>>> earlier in life than I anticipated.
>>>> That’s probably no shock to my friends who aren’t white. However, this
>>>> stuff takes time to learn if you haven’t lived it yourself and even the
>>>> most “woke” of us have so much room to grow.
>>>>
>>>> I just hope I can do enough to make sure my mixed race girl knows she is
>>>> beautiful, and her differences make her even more so.
>>>
>>> I simply wish that all children (and their parents) know Apostle
>>> Paul's secret ( https://bit.ly/Philippians4_12 ) "rapture riddle"
>>> (Luke 17:37) answer **now** so that they don't perish with
>>> https://AntiChrist45.com in the imminent Great Tribulation.
>>
>> Indeed.
>>
>>> Indeed, I am wonderfully hungry for food right now (Luke 6:21a) and
>>> hope you, Michael, and others reading this, also have a healthy
>>> appetite for food right now too.
>>>
>>> So how are you ?
>>
>> I am wonderfully hungry!
>
> While wonderfully hungry in the Holy Spirit, Who causes (Deuteronomy
> 8:3) us to hunger, I note that you, Michael, are rapture ready (Luke
> 17:37 means no COVID just as eagles circling over their food have no
> COVID) and pray (2 Chronicles 7:14) that our Everlasting (Isaiah 9:6)
> Father in Heaven continues to give us "much more" (Luke 11:13) Holy
> Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) so that we'd have much more of His Help to
> always say/write that we're "wonderfully hungry" in **all** ways
> including especially caring to "convince it forward" (John 15:12) with
> all glory (Psalm112:1) to GOD (aka HaShem, Elohim, Abba, DEO), in
> the name (John 16:23) of LORD Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Amen.
>
> Laus DEO !
>
Thank you for noting that I have no COVID.

Michael